Friday, September 28, 2007

Sweep on hunk..sweep on

okay..hang on.How did he manage to make sweeping so appealing? I got this off a friend who is on facebook. Apparently he was home on hols from the UK and his mum still asked him to sweep . His sister took this picture cos she wanted to scandalize him so instead of just shying away from it, he decided it might just score him a few points with the ladies.

Nigerian mums ...(bless them) are just so hilarious. No matter how grown you are, you have to conform to a certain extent. He looked like he was having fun though and that is the key. The word of God says train up a child in the way he should grow and when he is old,he would not depart from it.

He could have told his mum to sod off or just ignored her, picked his car keys and driven out but he chose to obey. You know the commandement"honour your parents so that you days would be long" is the only one that has a blessing attached.

Give me a Nigerian mum anyday.

Christians and emotions-Part 1

I am a God fearing Christian, on fire for God and just loving every minute of my walk with God. One thing though, i have got to learn is patience and to stop rolling my eyes in exasperation at people. I have always been an expressive person and most people can hear what I think without me uttering a word...i just can't keep a poker face.

I’ll tell you what happened. I had this meeting in church to discuss certain initiatives we wanted to implement in our volunteer group. The week before, i had just been elected leader and even though i was reluctant to do it, i just believed it was a calling from God so i should not run away from it. Now there is this guy in the group who nominated me for this position (let's call him ITK). At every meeting ITK takes over the proceedings, never let's anyone get a word in or interrupts people in the middle of their sentences. He always has a solution for every problem we have, splits the house in 2 during the meeting and just generally drives me batty. I have had cause on multiple occasions to stop him in his track once he starts but he just does not get it. I really feel bad that i feel this way about it since we are all Christians and are united for a common goal within the church but i can't help the way i feel. Most time Christians just want to hide their emotions but it just lurks beneath the surface unresolved and I don’t want to be like that.

Do i address this issue privately with him or do i just pray for Patience from God to tolerate his excesses? Readers, what do you think?

Thursday, September 27, 2007

TGIT

My weekends start from Thursday. I don't care what anyone else thinks but truth be told most people's brains start shutting down on thursday.You can get into the office late on friday and very few eyebrows are raised, you get to wear whatever you like, you start receiving invites for events for the weekend and for most cities in the worl, the party animals start to crawl out from their work stations.

My social life went up a few notches since i came back to Nigeria.Weddings, barbeques, dinner, birthday gigs, concerts, etc.I have been invited to practically any worthwhile social event
this side of town ....don't ask why. First few months, it was absolute fun.Now, i am just jadded from it all.The same people at most of the events acting like they don't breathe oxygen. I am just really tired of it all.

All i just want to do is to curl up in bed for hours, read a book and watch my favourite serial 24 .....and daydream of when i would take a cruise on my yatch( yea....see it with the eye of faith) just beholding the beauty of God's creation,the world.

So for me is off to devour calamari at Saipan tonite!So much for being jadded from going out. Care to join me..

Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Being single in Nigeria

Let’s talk about it ….being single in Nigeria above the age of 24 is like a social stigma

I went house hunting last week and had found this lovely 2 bedroom apartment a few house down the road i live in. I met the landlord, he seemed all okay with me renting his place until i meet his wife who coincidentally is not much older than me. First she starts asking questions about why I wanted a big flat to myself and what kind of friends I had etc etc etc. I even told her she could go get a character reference from the neighbors if that would make her happy and she had the nerve to say she wished my mum lived close by so she could ask. Summary, she refused to rent the place to me for that reason.

Next, I go for a job interview and meet the CEO of the company who amongst his first questions was to ask me why i was not married and that he had been advised by HR consultants to stay away from single girls as they were not very stable because they were not settled.

Or take the case of my aunty who told me that I may be under spiritual attack because I was fast approaching the big 30 and not married and that they were going to book special prayers on my behalf in church.

You get invites to events or people assume they can borrow you to run their own errand and when you complain about being busy, the always get the same answer about how busy can you be ,that what do you do with your free time since you were not married. There is just the general assumption that your time is not that important because you don't have that Mrs title attachd to it. Your 21 year cousin who is married is actually given more respect than you regardless of whatever acheivements you have in other areas of your life.

The time has come for people to realize that times have changed. Marriage is a good thing created by God for companionship and procreation but the truth is that with the rate of divorces in the world now, people should step back a minute and evaluate properly before they start pressurizing their friends or family members to say yes to the first man that asks or ask the first lady they meet. Current statistics prove that two in every three marriages in the world end in divorce with the unites states having the highest divorce rates in the world. Recent reports suggest that there is an increased mortality rate in fathers, mothers and children of divorces.

Marriage is supposed to be a lifetime commitment. A Friend says that people marry in the honey moon phase of their relationships. He says there are four phases every relationship must pass before it culminates in marriage. Stage one, honeymoon phase. Boy meets girl, boy and girl fall in love or lust or whatever it is they falling into...sun appears to set on each other’s face blab bla bla. Stage two…Uncovering. They now start to see each other for who they truly can be or are by small manifestations and reactions to events or situations. This is the stage when they now start to realize they aint the perfect person they thought they had found. Stage three becomes the realization stage when you now know that the person is exactly as you have just seen in stage 2 .Then final stage…decision. Now this is where it can swing both ways. You either decide to live with what you have just discovered or move on swiftly. My friend. Let’s call him LD (that’s another story) believes people marry in phase one and I totally agree. Until you realize that that person Is a swine, doesn’t always shave or shower, drops their clothes on the floor and all the other things which can drive you batty but in spite of that, still brings a smile to your face, then you can’t be in love. Only and only when you have seen the worst of that person can you now make an objective decision really.

So to all those of you who would rather we are married without going through the cycle just for the chance to wear aso-ebi, spray money to show off and have another topic of gossip about who wore what or how the food was not nice….you better adjust your prayer points that the phases come and go quickly because glamazon is about to go through all of them right to the end…or would you rather have me move into your pad when it all goes kaput? Tell me!

i did it

Halleluyah!..i finally did it.I have been saying i would start blogging since forever but today becomes tomorrow and then next tomorrow and you just realise another month has gone by but yes..now i have done it. I just hope i can still remember all the things i wanted to say on my blog but let's see how this goes.....

Welcome to my world...a world of drama, business, fashion. technology all rolled into one bundle to give u your's truly..Moi...Glamazon. Allow me to take you into my world, one episode at a time, one story at a time..

Sit back and enjoy the ride.